Some women are very focused on making sure that every nook and cranny of their home is dust-free and they will not leave the house in the morning until all the dishes are done and the house is straightened up. This is understandable. They want to live in a home that is not cluttered and they feel more at peace with the space they live in. It can be said that they take pride in their homes.
On the other hand you have women that focus purely on their kids and/or other things such as work, electronics, or relaxing and their homes are cluttered with things thrown around haphazardly.
For me, I think there needs to be a happy median. I love the time that I have with my family. Throughout the day I am busy making meals, doing laundry, changing diapers, running errands, and chauffeuring the kids around. When I come home sometimes the last thing that I want to do is clean. I would rather relax and spend some quality time watching t.v. with my loved ones or playing a game with my 6 year old or taking a family walk.
These are the moments that I treasure because I know that when the kids are older and out of the house, I will have plenty of time to keep a clean house. Does this mean that I need to have a house that looks like a tornado came through it in the name of fun? I don’t think so.
One thing that I like to do is make cleaning a fun family time. Ever since my older son was a toddler he was entranced with the vacuum so I let him take that job. Picking up toys is also something that little ones should be taught early on. It makes things so much easier when they are in the habit of picking up their own messes. Doing the dishes can be a time for good conversations too. Working as a family helps everyone feel like they are helping out and there is no need for nagging.
I also do daily little things, such as making the beds first thing in the morning and spending about 15 minutes straightening up the house from clutter each morning, but I’m not too strict about things being spotless. Taking a disinfectant wipe to the kitchen and bathroom counters is also quick and easy to do daily.
In the evenings when I am making dinner, I like to use that time for the boys to spend time with their dad. That is a special time for them to enjoy together and I get a little break.
Each family needs to see what works for them. Cleaning should not be put before family-time. It is nice to have a comfortable home, but it does not need to be perfect. Enjoy the time that you are blessed to spend with your kids. Make memories, laugh, play, and have fun.
If you knew that today was your last day, would you want to lay your head on your pillow wishing you would have spent a little more time with your children or would you wish that you would have a dust-free and spotless home? This is something I try to keep in mind as I prioritize my days.